Greetings Wingmen and Women
RECAP
So we’ve had a lot of enquiries about the
Cold Approach. As we covered this in the previous Blog we won’t go into too
much detail but I will recap on the most important rule and how to build up the
confidence to make many successful approaches.
First off for all you younger Wingmen and
Women out there, I often hear about how you found it difficult or didn’t know
what to say when approaching your target. The problem is, most are asking about
nightclub scenarios.
When you’re in a Night Club it’s pretty
much understood by everyone that you can hit on several people in one night
without any worries of upsetting anyone (unless you have already had success in
that venue earlier in the evening). Success of failure may not come down to
your skills, it maybe any one of a number of factors.
Where can you use your new found skills?
EVERYWHERE.
The point is success also has a surprise
factor. When someone out of the blue starts talking to you in a coffee shop, a
bus stop or a superstore etc, people naturally respond in kind and are more
open because they’re not expecting to be chatted up.
This leaves you all sorts of possibilities
of great encounters that have a high success rate.
So…How can you build your confidence to
make a cold approach?
When you’re out and about, the weekend is
always a good time for this, but trust us, you can do this anywhere at any time
and everywhere that isn’t a night-club is a good place to start.
Make Small Talk.
Try to speak to at least 3 random strangers
of the opposite sex (or your sexual preference) in one day. You need to strike
up a conversation and it can be about anything. These people do not have to be
romantic interests; they are just facilitating us building your confidence.
Conversations can start by asking for
directions, the weather or any current event, the point is to just strike up a
conversation. What this will do is take away the stigma of not being able to
approach someone.
If you’re able to do that, you can then progress
from there to taking away a personal piece of information about them and
remembering something distinctive about them.
If there are any specific questions them
you know where to send reach us.
JUDGEMENT OVER TRUST.
An unusual title, but it is exactly what it
means. Judgment over trust. On the Twitter site we have often talked about
spicing up your sex life and really exploring your boundaries of what you have
actually done sexually.
Trusting in your partner is of paramount
importance. Without trust it’s hard to function in a relationship…period. So
the more you trust someone, the more likely you are to open up to them.
When it comes to the more, let’s say,
“Kinky” side of your sexual relationship, fantasies, role play, toys etc. Trust
may not be quite enough.
Surely if you have trust you should be able
to tell them anything right?
Not quite, you see, your sexual desires and
fantasies maybe shrouded in embarrassment or shame and it’s locked away in a
small part of your brain that not even your closest friend will ever hear
about.
So who do you tell?
You’ll tell someone that will embrace the
thoughts and not pass judgment on them. None of us want to feel like freaks and
because we don’t share these thoughts we imagine no one else or at least very
few people would be having them.
Lots of people have very weird and
wonderful ideas of sexual practice and the only way to really embrace it is
when you can share it with someone. It becomes a huge relief to know that you
have shared all of yourself with your partner (preferably).
So those that don’t pass judgment and are
truly open minded are a lot more likely to reach their sexual boundaries and
fulfill their sexual fantasies, while others will always have the fantasy and
never reach their potential.
Table for 3, Mr. Penis and his two friends
The Balls.
It is with a heavy heart that I write this
paragraph. It seems no matter how many times we tweet about this, we constantly
get messages from guys saying that their partner is great they really know how
to turn them on, but “what can I do to get her to play with my balls more?”
What can we say?
There are those out there that will
naturally take your entire sexual organ to its limit and those that need
direction.
Just as every woman is different and you
need to take time to learn what she likes, as there maybe a combination of
things that will bring her to orgasm. Every man also has his own combination.
You cannot just assume a simple tug back and forth will suffice.
Men and Women have wonderful and complex
sexual organs that can be stimulated in a number of different ways, the trick
is to find out what your partner likes. Understand that as well as the penis,
there ARE balls attached to that and stimulating them can go a long way in
arousing your partner.
One of the tips we often give on Twitter is
about masturbating with your partner. Make it sexy, watch each other…I mean
really watch each other, see what they touch, how much pressure they apply and
how fast or slow they work it.
